I want to respond because I feel like I’m in a similar situation, only from a guys perspective. You’re the one. I had a vasectomy after our second child. Equally, respect for each other’s opinions must be given. Hes been quite cheeky with me online u know jokey banter in sometimes a sexual tone. My child is not “your baby.” My husband may be your baby; hell, I may even be your baby, but that little bundle of joy is not. I don’t know if there are a lot of guys on this forum, but I’m a guy. The whole devastated me as I and dad used to be so close, and I was spoilt as any girl could be. But I feel like if we don’t do it soon I’ll never be able to have anymore babies. No more kids and no actual commitment? 3 years ago. HE’S PICKING UP THE BABY. Christian rolled over when he was 2 weeks old is that normal, he rolled over at his doctors apt and the doctor looked surprized thats why i was wondering. I do 90% of the child rearing as it is. however some things happen where we separated for a while maybe 2 years. The next evening he told me he wanted me to abort the baby. we met in college and he was my first everything; i so love him. I’m currently pregnant with my second baby, my first born is a boy and this one is a girl, I don’t want to have anymore kids because I already have my little girl and he has his little boy but my boyfriend wants to have more kids and every time I bring up that I don’t he seems to get really sad and makes me feel so guilty for not wanting another child but I don’t think he understands what it does to me mentally. Well this month after 4 months of trying he told me yesterday that he no longer wants to add another kid to the family. I also love my wife. See more ideas about new baby products, baby love, baby photos. I could not love them more if I tried. I’ve tried really hard to convince myself that maybe our son is perfect alone and we’re fine with just one based off of his childhood experience. There's a new kid in town, And he's lying in a manger down the road. I want more. I have a lot of residual anxiety and depression that wasn’t there before we had her. I hope he figured out what to do. I feel it was unfair for him to begin the relationship by saying he wasn’t against more. shingeki-no-random liked this . I feel like we are financially in a better position than a lot of our friends who have multiple children. He said we should talk about it again in 6 months but I don’t think he’ll change his mind and I don’t think I’ll change mine. I feel we will end up separating anyway because I think I will resent him too much. I’m to the point where I don’t think our marriage will survive this. In the first two years I worked away in an oilfield camp so I could earn a decent wage to support them as my wife didnt want to put our daughter into daycare until 2 y.o. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. Mine brought out a humbleness in me that I deeply needed. This is a big deal for the boy, he won, f-i-s, come on, let him have his moment. A ton of people are hesitant to get married because they are afraid they will get divorced. You have to be very careful now and let child workers help you as much as possible. The day I discovered my daughter wasn't mine: Another 'paternity fraud' victim reveals how he was deceived. I desperately want a third child. He’s told me if I want another child he doesn’t want to hold me up and was willing to break up. I went ahead and had a vasectomy. It’s been a something I’ve wanted my whole life to have 3 kids of my own. I want a baby now and he doesnt. I am in a rock and a hard place. My oldest is disabled so needs more attention than most. I would suggest counseling to help you and your husband work through this. After all the woman carries it and gives birth. he smiles alot he started that at 4 weeks. A year ago it seemed like everyone around me started to get an another baby. You say these gifts are for Should I give up on having a third child knowing I will always long for another and be grieving the child I failed and grieving the child my husband won’t let me have. Don't pay any attention to Superman, he's just a Greenie Meaneenie Jealous Butt Crybeanie, he doesn't like it … My wife and I have been married for 14 years. Keep strong. But unless a man has specifically said that he wants an exclusive, committed relationship with you, chances are he’s just enjoying your company. I was done with 3 kids. From pregnancy symptoms to baby names, BellyBelly will help you to feel more informed and confident about your options and choices for all things pregnancy, birth and baby. You 100% both need to really hash it out and talk talk talk! Hey. He even booked himself in for a vasectomy! . I really wish that there is some sort of middle ground for the both of us…we’ve fought so many times about the baby thing and I’m literally at a breaking point. I think about it all the time, My partner has two children with two different women an we have a little boy together he doesn’t want anymore children but I’d love another one I had a miscarriage in March he told me the sooner we have another one the better that felt like a massive breakthrough for me we were on the same page again but a few weeks ago he told me he only said it to make me feel better which it did and now I’m back to feeling alone and really depressed the thought of never having anymore children I love my partner and my family very much I have a wonderful relationship with my step children but I’m struggling at not having anymore myself I’m feeling confused and lost and I don’t know how to get rid of the want for more children to make him happy I just hope he changes his mind, my fiance soon to be husband and i have two beautiful girls, he wants to try for a boy. I cry to myself at night I really feel their a piece of me missing… I dwell on the subject over and over in my head and I know this is something I am going to resent him for. How you feel is valid but realize you’re super blessed. Even boys the same ages. Many second-time parents are surprised at how much they can love their next baby. He just FEELS safe with you. If you’re the reluctant partner, is it because you’re scared of going through the first year again, worried you won’t love another baby, or concerned about the financial implications of another child? As hes been acting different with me past month or so. He turned into more of a man the day he became a father. I too had a child when I was 21 and I am now in my 30s as well. You may be used to compromising on which take out to have for dinner, what to watch on television, and even more serious things like what you name your child, but what if you disagree about how many children to have? 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